What Would You Do–“Gay Kids”?

Check out this video, then I’ve got a question…

I’m more asking your opinion, because I’m not 100% sure what I would do. Although, I supposed if I thought about it enough I would think of something. This is more for conversation sake. Also, I don’t believe that this is as big a problem as the media would like us to think it is.

The scenario. You have a parent who is new to your church, perhaps a first-time guest and his parent asks you to make sure “he” is placed in the girl small group because he’s not a he, he’s a she and that’s just the way God made him. How would you respond? Would you respond right then?




  1. I’d start by saying from the sound of it, you might not be too clear on the difference between LGBT kids. To define it most simply, gay kids aren’t always going to identify themselves with the opposite sex. Gay peoples are those that feel romantic and physical attraction towards members of the same sex. Transsexual people can fall into a number of categories, including the one you mentioned, say for instance, a boy who identifies as a female. In many cases, this is a result of gender identity disorder, which is a psychological condition in which there is a dissonance between perceived gender and sex. Essentially, someone may describe it as feeling like they were born with the “wrong body”. It’s a complicated issue, but what the Church needs to do is respond to LGBT with open, loving arms, recognize that we don’t understand their struggles as well as many Christians think they do, and reach out with the love of Christ. Especially when it comes to kids, LGBT youth are at a strikingly high risk of bullying and resultant outcomes, be it depression, anxiety, adjustment disorders, and sadly suicide as well. We absolutely must be advocates for these kids against bullying and must always approach the issue never as the bully. Again, I won’t draw the conclusion, but God has really place this issue on my heart and my convictions have been to respond first and foremost with love and humility in recognizing that we don’t understand human sexuality as well as we would like to, but if there is an answer to be found, it is one that will be truthful in accordance with Scripture, and bring the seekers closer to God – not alienated and outcast from the Church.

    1. Great point Clay…I will not pretend to know all the psychological aspects of human sexuality. I do agree that being confused of one’s sexuality is not the same as being gay, thus the quotation marks around “gay.” I’d love to hear more of your thoughts or resources that you could recommend. Thanks.

  2. wow. All I can say is that I am glad I don’t work for the girl scouts! Fortunately for us we are called as the church to love everyone. The church is a place that should turn no one away regardless of their personal situation. Kid or adult.

    I don’t know how I would react to a parent requesting that their transgendered child be placed in a specific small group. I think my response would be that we don’t allow anyone to pick what small group they go to. I know we certainly wouldn’t let a boy use the girls bathroom.

    I would think that if a parent is truly supporting a childs desire to be a different gender altogether they would dress and style their child accordingly and not even say a word about it. My point with that is that if this boy in the video came to my church in a dress with styled hair, I might not be able to tell either way…at least not enough to ask. If a parent actually brings it up and points it out, I might see that as a red flag for someone that just wants to create a problem.

    Where I see the difficulty in this situation is fielding the concerns of other parents in the church. A situation like this in your children’s ministry may bring up discussions at home. A discussion that many parents may not want to have with their kids.

    I had a different situation in our children’s ministry but the same level of sensitivity where a couple children in our ministry had two moms instead of a mom and a dad. The challenge was not in loving the family itself, it was unfortunately getting the rest of the parents to love. Therin lies our true challenge…unfortunate as it is.

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